So far I’ve had a wonderful start to the month of April! My Greek team and I ended up winning the National Hellenic Invitational Basketball Tournament this past weekend. We lost our first game but since the tournament was double elimination we were given an opportunity to redeem ourselves and made it to the championship and WON!
Overall, the tournament went really well and I believe that losing our first game was probably the best thing that happened for our team. Even though we lost by a buzzer beater on Friday we were able to play more games with each other on Saturday and Sunday which helped our team develop more chemistry. So even though we didn’t play up to our potential on Friday, we had a chance to play the same team we lost to early on Sunday before the Championship. I really felt like I enjoyed playing in the NHIBT tournament this year because I felt like I was finally in good enough shape to be out there and perform at a decent level. I know that if I took a little more time to polish my basketball skills (dribbling shooting and defense) that I would be just as good if I used to be (if not better considering I’m in better shape right now than I was in high school).
After the loss on Friday I headed out to a Greek restaurant for dinner. I ordered the Sea bass with a large side of Green Beans and Orzo with red sauce. All of the food was delicious.
As much as I love the orzo and feta from Whole foods I thought this Greek Restaurant’s version was even better…
Still, I can’t knock the whole foods Orzo that much, it’s one of my favorite sides from them.
I’ll be leaving for Arizona on Wednesday, this vacation couldn’t come at a better time! Life has been a little out of control lately and I think the time away will give me some alone time to figure out what I want and need in my life. My Aunt has planned some exciting and fun excursions for us while over in Scottsdale. I cannot wait to get my Hike/Tan on and will be taking tons of pictures to share with everyone
On Saturday, April 16th I’ll be running in my first 5k! The Race to Wrigley is almost here and I’m really looking forward to seeing what my first running time will be.
By the end of the month I’ll be done with my junior year of College. One more year and it’s out into the real world for me. I cannot believe how fast time has flown. Lately I’ve been starting to realize that I need to focus my energy on enjoying each day that I’ve been blessed with. Sometimes it’s hard for me to keep in mind that each day is a gift and as people we should work hard to make that day better than the one prior.
Thus my goal for April is to let go of the past FULLY.
As of today, I’m wiping my slate clean of the past and focusing only on what life has in store for me in the future. I believe that the only true way to progress as a person mentally is to let go of any built up anger, fear or sadness anyone has brought me in the past. Instead, I will be making a conscious effort to focus only on what is going on in the present moment. One important piece of advice I can recall one of my teachers telling me that has always stuck with me is, “One must always maintain one’s connection to the past and yet ceaselessly pull away from it.” Remembering past experiences (both positive and negative) can yield positive results. For example, recalling a former successful event you partook can be as beneficial as remembering an event that caused you heartache and confusion as long as you took something positive from that experience and learned from it. I used to believe that it was “OK” to keep negative experiences in mind but necessary to remember the second part of the quote “ceaselessly pull away from it”. But now I believe there’s no point in keeping some negative experiences in mind at ALL, especially if your like me, a person who allows negative experiences to resonate too often within me.
A question I’ve decided to delve into now that April here is, “What is one thing positive that have I taken from one of my negative experiences?” Well, I’ve been able to see that I am a strong individual that has overcome a lot of confusion and I came out of it and got through it. I’ve learned how necessary it is to learn to trust the people I love in my life because they are there to help me not to hurt me. I’ve also learned how important trust is to make a relationship blossom. Without it, insecurity grows and grows and grows. I’ve learned that insecurity is the road to an unhealthy relationship with your partner and even more importantly, an unhealthy relationship with YOURSELF. I’m going to try to learn to accept myself for my looks, abilities, skills and keep in mind that each day I am are ALREADY a success. This is how I’ll be spending the month of April, hopefully by learning and believing this about myself will help me mold my attitude into the attitude I used to have in high school. I believe that I used to be less up tight and had more of a carefree type of attitude that people liked to be around. But it’s hard to be totally carefree about everything and secure when you’ve fallen in love. But being insecure (and overly caring for an individual) can be as destructive as not caring enough.
When you have a secure base, it’s easier to explore and engage in the world. I believe that there is a relationship between “adult attachment love” and one’s life and success in the world. People who have a “secure attachment love” enjoy their work more, are more successful, even take the time do more things that they enjoy (from what I’ve seen in other’s relationships). Healthy and secure love attachments help people to function optimally in the world.
When people are secure in their relationships, they tend to have predictable and more positive views of themselves and of others. They tend to see others as dependable and trustworthy. More importantly, they tend to see themselves as loveable and deserving of care and good relationships. These persons are more upbeat about themselves and others. Being, and having been, in a secure relationship, one feels better about oneself. An optimistic self-image is an important benefit. And there you have it… My goal for April is to be secure and in order to do so letting go of the past and wiping my slate clean is a must!
My question for you is this: “What have you learned from your “negative” experiences in the past? (an argument, a breakup, a disappointment)